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Hello again, SBU students! I come to you via printed page to discuss something very important. I find I have to address a very serious problem with students at this fine university — they aren’t using enough lube or using it properly. I have had the joy of handing out condoms and lube to students on more than one occasion, and what I have noticed is that many people just don’t take the lube even though, quite frankly, the condoms they are taking aren’t lubricated enough. Now, I know this probably doesn’t seem like a real problem, but it is. Lube is the best stuff of all the stuff. People who complain about condoms not feeling good? You are not using enough lube. People who are struggling getting anal to work? Use more lube. People who masturbate a lot? Lube is a good idea. Lube is like a magic potion.…

Until Dawn a very strange experience. It’s  a AAA PS4 game trying to be a B horror movie,a strange combination. Its to the credit of the people over at Supermassive that they managed to put this thing together at all. The game puts the player in charge of a bunch of teenagers that look a lot like hot twenty-somethings, who are up on a mountain, alone (or so they think), in a big, scary mansion in the woods. The player gets to take turns playing the different teens and help them do things like have snowball fights, play silly pranks on each other and perform field amputations. It’s a cinematic game, part walking simulator and part quicktime event madness. The quicktime events vary between normal ones where you press a button at a certain time, and annoying ones where you have to hold perfectly still, so still you have to…

People ask me a LOT of questions about sex and related topics. A huge amount of those questions are prefaced with something about how nervous or anxious the person is to even be asking the question. Anxiety and stress are both huge problems when it comes to sex. It keeps people from communicating with their partners, finding partners and sometimes can prevent them from having sex with existing partners. People with anxiety disorders often take medicine that can cause erectile disfunction or a lowered libido, which can sometimes be a source of more stress. However, orgasms, whether from sex or masturbation, can actually help to alleviate stress. Here are some ideas for sexy stress relief, alone or with a partner: Pour some hot water over your head, or sit in it. A bath or shower, alone or with a friend, is a great way to relieve stress and also an…

Leonard Nimoy was a poet, a writer, an actor on the stage and the big screen and more. He is, however, still best known for his role on a science fiction show which was only on the air for three years nearly five decades ago. Star Trek has always been present in my life. I can remember it playing in the background when I had dinner with my grandma as a kid. It ran in endless cycles of reruns; I would watch on sick days when I was in middle school. In high school, Spock and Kirk were the stars of dozens of fanfiction stories that kept me up late at night, which had me sighing dreamily over a love that dare not speak its name. Star Trek was one of the things that brought me and my husband together. My Facebook timeline is littered with pictures of the two…

Sexual Assault Awareness Week, or SAAW, is coming up fast, and that means talking about sexual assault and consent. Consent is the difference between sex and rape or assault. The goal here is to make sure all partners are happy and safe every time it’s sexy time. However, how to get from meeting someone to talking about what is or isn’t ok in the bedroom/bathroom/whichever place you like to bone is not always clear for some people. Sexual scripting is a way to understand sexual encounters as social interactions, they are learned behaviors. For a lot of people, sexual scripting goes something like: Person A makes a move on Person B, and keeps going further until Person B says “no”… or doesn’t. It works, sort of. The problem with this model is that it isn’t based on real communication, and it isn’t the best way to have sex. Asking questions…

Q – So, what is ethical porn? Why should I care about porn so much? A – Porn is super awesome. Masturbation is good for health, it can reduce stress, it can relieve cramps, it can help you sleep and lots of other good things. Really, masturbation is just all around good stuff, and porn can be a big part of that. Not all porn is good porn. Some porn is made by companies that mistreat workers, refuse to use barriers and reduce certain body types and ethnicities to racist stereotypes and bad cliches. However, there is plenty of good porn out there. Porn that is sexy, feminist friendly, queer friendly, body positive and still super fun to fap to. The trick is learning to do a little research. I can help out with that last part. If you like videos, try The Crashpad Series, Queerporn.tv. If you like comics, try Chester 5000…

Nothing says “Summer” like filling your time with something fun, and that can mean a lot of things. For me, it means sexy fun time. Not sex, but things that relate to it and show how fun and non threatening sexuality can be. So if you still need a way to spend your time before classes start, here’s some ideas: Sex Criminals Volume 1 by Matt Fraction and Chip Zdarsky This comic series is all about the serious consequences of sex, like realizing you can stop time with your orgasms. It’s a beautifully drawn series and very well written with a fun idea. Great for those that like sex and Oceans 11. ohjoysextoy.com by Erika Moen This webcomic series has the best reviews for all things sexy, from lubes to porn (good porn! with consent, safety and a great LGBT friendly line up!) to sex toys (for men, for women,…

My name is Dakota Eye and I am a semi professional pervert. I am also a full time undergrad here at SBU. I am an art major, but I am rarely asked about my art, what types of paint to buy or which type of paper is best for screen printing. Instead, I have become known as something of an expert on all things sex. On a regular basis I am asked about what brand of condoms are vegan, what lube is best for for silicone toys and how a person can come out as polyamorous. As the vice president of SBU The Next Generation, the campus club that specializes in alternative sex, sexuality and sex education, I lead discussions on all sorts of sexual topics. I have also talked about female sexuality and slut walks at Suffolk County Community College Women’s Week. I have been an active member…